Have you ever recognize this pattern within us that tends to find fault with whatever that happens in our life?
I have seen friends who all of a sudden find fault with their other half all of a sudden. Or the people who just suddenly find fault with their workplace and their collegues. Or just with their ownselves.
Most people find it hard to be alone for that reason. We just can’t accept things. We are brought up in this culture where it is almost a norm to find fault with things.
However, I realize that most people say that things have to improve. Yup. No doubt about it. Things have to improve. We at some point would need to improve our lives. We would reach a point where we want better things or friends or we would want to improve our characters. It’s all right with wanting to improve.
But we have to be conscious of ourselves and ask the question.
Are we first accepting the situation we are in ?
Most of the people in spite of wanting to improve their situation fail to recognize this. The key to a more fulfilling life is first to accept whatever situation we are in. In order to improve a situation, we would first have to accept it.
If we were to try to “improve” our situation without first accepting it, we are basically fault finding. We are not even conscious about it. Then when we reach our “desired situation”, we would have more fault finding tendencies.
I think that this thought pattern is essentially the reason for the materialist phenomena that we so often see at the moment. People are buying more and more things in the excuse that things have to “improve”. Most individuals just couldn’t find the value within themselves and so they have a need to surround themselves by more things in order to be more “valuable” to the world.
So they work hard to get something and then when they have it, they have more things to get. This cycle goes on and on. Unless we really realize it deep down within us, we could easily get trapped into this phenomena as well.
Then we have to ask ourselves another key question:
Are we looking for perfection ?
I think being a perfectionist is a crutch for most people. There are individuals who are constantly wanting for things to happen exactly like how they want to. They set goals and create plans. Then they struggle and stress themselves to achieve them. They try to make things exactly like how they have plan. It brings about a lot of stress and unhappiness.
I think most of us at some point of our lives forget that the purpose of life is just to be happy. It is not about making things exactly like we want it. It’s not about achievement or in wanting other people to be as we wish. Our reason for this earth is just to find for the joy we all want deep within us and inner peace.
Final Notes
At times its pretty easy to just forget that we can’t really control things. We might plan all we like but there are things that happen which are out of control. Like the Christian saying goes,” Man proposes, God disposes.”
It takes a lot of courage to listen to the inner voice within and not control so much. Just let things be.
I have gone deeper within myself and realize that at times the control freak that is within me has slowly died down. It takes a lot of guts to just surrender to the moment and trust that it will turn out well. For some situations, I believe that to just surrender and let things happen is a rather better form of “action” then doing something.
We just have lessons to learn in our journey. Just learn to stay open to circumstances and things would work out perfectly.
Practice gratitude, for it helps us stay in the moment and allow us to be more open to whatever that happens. It allows us to accept things easier.
Thanks for reading.
