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Finding The Blessing

September 8, 2011 //
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Things aren’t going as well as I want it to be two weeks ago. I felt lost. I didn’t know where I am going all of a sudden.

I think to a certain extent this started when I start comparing myself with some of my friends who are in steady jobs. We were out hanging out for drinks when they all seem to have a steady and certain lifestyle. They seem to be doing steady while I am still in this part of my life of uncertainty and unknowingness.

I chose it that way, upon further reflection.

I chose this uncertain lifestyle. But sometimes I forget that I chose this lifestyle. I forget that I chose to be a writer and someone who works from home. I forget that I chose to not have a full-time job which pays a steady income. I chose it myself.

But in that comparison with other people, I become uncertain. I am not in their path of things. I felt like I was left behind. Comparisons just make myself bad.

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It is after that few days of feeling down and lost that I realize that I am actually doing what I wanted.

I needed some time to find the blessing. To understand why I am on a certain path. Why I choose to be a writer. Why  I choose to be a real estate agent. Why I choose to start up my own businesses.

I think I fail to see the blessing in my choices of wanting freedom and an avenue to express. Mixing around with my friends dragged me down. I am not saying that they are bad or judging them, but what we want is just different.

I want:

  • Control over my life
  • The ability to express
  • Not following a certain schedule
  • Just doing things for the sake of it

I need constant reminder on the blessing of those choices that I make. As for now, I am just floating around feeling blessed. Blessed with a sense of doing what I love and just having the courage to pursue them.

Fark comparison. I’m doing great. Call me stubborn, I don’t care.

 

 

p.s. I hate grammar. I hate my book being edited by grammar people and being known that I have plenty of grammar mistakes. Writing should be an avenue of expression.

Categories Consciousness, Emotions, Happiness, Ideas, Success, Thoughts

Taking Risks

August 23, 2011 //
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I think we don’t get anywhere worthy without taking risks. I realized this in the process of writing my book.

I felt like I was taking a big risk with writing that book. To a certain extent, I was worried about the reception the book will have. I am afraid that I have wasted my months writing the book with a poor feedback.

Writing that book is fun and challenging, no doubts about that. But it is risky.

I stopped working on my real estate and freelance writing in order to finish the book. It’s hard to explain the degree of uncertainty that I have to go through. I fear like whether my savings would be enough to sustain me or whether I would be wasting my time on writing that book and it ends up as crap.

I think about it a lot.

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Taking risks is important. Taking risks implies that we are willing to change. Taking risks are scary because it implies that we want to change.

Risks come in many forms. It may come in asking a girl out on a date, changing careers, in finding what we love, in having our own viewpoints. Anything that is worth doing usually comes with a tremendous amount of risk.

If you are afraid of taking risk, then perhaps  you aren’t doing anything worth talking about in the first place.

Perhaps you are so busy trying to be secure. Being in the comfort of your surroundings and the money that you make each month.

I find not having a monthly consistent income very helpful. It makes me not in this whole cycle. I don’t like being in a cycle.

I am a risk taker. I do what I love.

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Categories Happiness, Mindset, Success, Thoughts

What Can I Give ?

August 10, 2011 //
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I think the common problem with a lot of personal development is they always have this mentality of what they can get. Personal development books are always centered around this goal-setting mentality.

We are taught to set goals and so on. Financial goals and material goals are among them.

However, based upon my experience that is actually a bad way.

This is because if we are constantly thinking about what we can take out, we come from a low level mentality. If we are constantly thinking about what we want. Like a new car or gadget, we will  fail or be very frustrated even if we get it.

This is because if we always focus on what we want, we will want more things. This is normal. That’s why most goal-setting fail in the long term if it focuses on what you want.

I have a different idea. Why don’t we focus instead on what can you give?

I realize that when I come from that mindset, I am able to be happier. I see myself as a provider. I come from an abundance mindset. I feel like I am giving instead of receiving.

I don’t feel like I need anything. I feel rich giving. I feel happy giving.

I think we all need to come from that place of giving if we are to really find happiness in the long term.

Question of the day: What can I give the world? What unique talents do I have to offer.

p.s. focus on giving. not taking.  you’ll be happier.

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Categories Consciousness, Happiness, Mindset, Success

The Creative Art of Blaming

July 17, 2011 //
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It amuses me how we easily we give away our powers.

In the past few weeks, there has been an influx of posts condemning how the government has made the country bad. They are people saying that the government is not doing a good job etc bla bla. You get it. All those people blaming the politicians and the government for their own shortcomings in life.

It amuses me really when people put the blame on what they don’t have on the government. Instead of working harder (and smarter) to get into better positions in life, the spend all their time blaming the government and believing that the government is their ticket to a better future. How stupid it can sound !!

There is nothing that holds back a person. When someone spends so much time believing that the key to changing his life and the life of other people is through changing the government, they are wasting their time. It’s delusional.

It seems a better use of time to just focus on changing your own life. Stop looking into the government to see how they can give you a better life. Spend your time on your own life instead. I look at those demonstrators and those people who seem so self-rightous about what they are doing and I deeply feel that they are better off doing some other things to improve their own life.

Why do we always believe that other things hold the key to our success ?

Why do we believe that if only ____________ change, you will be better off ?

Fill in the blank with anything you can think of. Most of us are already very good at it.

Blaming the government. Blaming the lack of education. Blaming the fact that your parents didn’t brought you well. Blaming the fact that you are too young.

Blaming takes away your own personal power. Blaming makes you believe that other people holds the key to your own happiness and success. Blaming makes you disillusioned about things.

We need to stop with all this blaming and put more effort into improving ourselves and our lives.

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I am pretty sick of people who believe that the government has to change in order for their life to change. Change comes from you. Don’t expect a governmental change while you remain rigidly where you are.

So many people expect the government for so many things. As if they have a right to it. Man do not need to be governed.

Stop with the blaming. Start focusing on yourself. We don’t live long.

Change the things worth changing. Instead of using our creativity to blame others, use it rather to help ourselves be better people.

Categories Happiness, Ideas, Mindset, Success, Thoughts
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