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Standing Alone

September 29, 2011 //
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To a certain extent, I believe that the relationship we have when we are alone is just about the most important.

Anyone who can’t spend time alone is just about the kind of person who would never have a great relationship with others. If you are able to spend time alone, you can have a great time with anyone.

However, to stand alone is a different thing. To stand alone is the ability to be one with one own’s believe and opinions. To not be worried about public opinion. To not be so easily influenced by others.

This is extremely important isn’t it.

Yes. We are social creatures.

But standing alone without fear is what we all should aim for. Not to be easily swayed by the opinions of others.

Categories Consciousness, Ideas, Mindset

Finding The Blessing

September 8, 2011 //
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Things aren’t going as well as I want it to be two weeks ago. I felt lost. I didn’t know where I am going all of a sudden.

I think to a certain extent this started when I start comparing myself with some of my friends who are in steady jobs. We were out hanging out for drinks when they all seem to have a steady and certain lifestyle. They seem to be doing steady while I am still in this part of my life of uncertainty and unknowingness.

I chose it that way, upon further reflection.

I chose this uncertain lifestyle. But sometimes I forget that I chose this lifestyle. I forget that I chose to be a writer and someone who works from home. I forget that I chose to not have a full-time job which pays a steady income. I chose it myself.

But in that comparison with other people, I become uncertain. I am not in their path of things. I felt like I was left behind. Comparisons just make myself bad.

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It is after that few days of feeling down and lost that I realize that I am actually doing what I wanted.

I needed some time to find the blessing. To understand why I am on a certain path. Why I choose to be a writer. Why  I choose to be a real estate agent. Why I choose to start up my own businesses.

I think I fail to see the blessing in my choices of wanting freedom and an avenue to express. Mixing around with my friends dragged me down. I am not saying that they are bad or judging them, but what we want is just different.

I want:

  • Control over my life
  • The ability to express
  • Not following a certain schedule
  • Just doing things for the sake of it

I need constant reminder on the blessing of those choices that I make. As for now, I am just floating around feeling blessed. Blessed with a sense of doing what I love and just having the courage to pursue them.

Fark comparison. I’m doing great. Call me stubborn, I don’t care.

 

 

p.s. I hate grammar. I hate my book being edited by grammar people and being known that I have plenty of grammar mistakes. Writing should be an avenue of expression.

Categories Consciousness, Emotions, Happiness, Ideas, Success, Thoughts

The Creative Art of Blaming

July 17, 2011 //
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It amuses me how we easily we give away our powers.

In the past few weeks, there has been an influx of posts condemning how the government has made the country bad. They are people saying that the government is not doing a good job etc bla bla. You get it. All those people blaming the politicians and the government for their own shortcomings in life.

It amuses me really when people put the blame on what they don’t have on the government. Instead of working harder (and smarter) to get into better positions in life, the spend all their time blaming the government and believing that the government is their ticket to a better future. How stupid it can sound !!

There is nothing that holds back a person. When someone spends so much time believing that the key to changing his life and the life of other people is through changing the government, they are wasting their time. It’s delusional.

It seems a better use of time to just focus on changing your own life. Stop looking into the government to see how they can give you a better life. Spend your time on your own life instead. I look at those demonstrators and those people who seem so self-rightous about what they are doing and I deeply feel that they are better off doing some other things to improve their own life.

Why do we always believe that other things hold the key to our success ?

Why do we believe that if only ____________ change, you will be better off ?

Fill in the blank with anything you can think of. Most of us are already very good at it.

Blaming the government. Blaming the lack of education. Blaming the fact that your parents didn’t brought you well. Blaming the fact that you are too young.

Blaming takes away your own personal power. Blaming makes you believe that other people holds the key to your own happiness and success. Blaming makes you disillusioned about things.

We need to stop with all this blaming and put more effort into improving ourselves and our lives.

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I am pretty sick of people who believe that the government has to change in order for their life to change. Change comes from you. Don’t expect a governmental change while you remain rigidly where you are.

So many people expect the government for so many things. As if they have a right to it. Man do not need to be governed.

Stop with the blaming. Start focusing on yourself. We don’t live long.

Change the things worth changing. Instead of using our creativity to blame others, use it rather to help ourselves be better people.

Categories Happiness, Ideas, Mindset, Success, Thoughts

Dear Tiger

December 13, 2009 //
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Dear Tiger,

I would like to start by telling you something and that I’m an avid fan of you. You represent what golf means. You’re the true athlete in terms of how determined, how your work ethic is and how professional you are.

I place you as one of those athletes which I truly admire. Among those which I really felt were true professionals in their field are people like Lance Armstrong, Micheal Jordan ad Ryan Giggs. These people are those I truly respect for their dedication and discipline in their game. You are definitely one of them. (please note that I do not include Federer among those people for the sheer fact that I believe that true winners don’t cry when they lose. Sorry Roger)

What you have done would have disappointed those who are close to you. I can only imagine how your mum and your late father would have felt after knowing about it. Elin is right to be pissed at you, forgive her for that. Your children would also be very disappointed if they were to know the entire story.

That’s about the people which you only need to be really be responsible to. No one else.
Not your sponsors. Not to other golfers on tour. Not to the media. Not to anyone else. To hell with them.

I respect you at an extremely deep level because I know how technical golf is. I play golf and I know it. God knows how many hours you put in a day just to perfect your swing, to work on your short game and all the other stuffs that only those who really play the game will understand.

I remember reading a book about you. It said that the moment you entered the game, the only record you were ever after was Jack Nicklaus 18 major record.

I hope you really keep your eyes on that because you really deserve to break that record.

When you started golf, your target isn’t to be the most reputable person in the world or to be the most popular golfer or athlete in the world; but your actual goal was to break Jack’s record. I really hope you do. It doesn’t matter if no one else sponsors you because your target from the beginning isn’t about making heaps of money from golf but in breaking that record.

Clear up the mess, Tiger. Talk to Elin and ask her for forgiveness. Talk to your mum and ask her for forgiveness. Talk to the media openly about it. Release a statement asking for forgiveness from your fans. Take some time out to reflect and rethink your priorities.

Don’t pay those girls you had sex with a dime to stop them from releasing the stories. Just let them do what they want with it. It doesn’t matter if they have a sex tape of you. I would rather spend time watching you on golf channel then watching you making love on the web.

Those gold diggers are just after your millions. Don’t pay them any. They had their own share of fun too.

I hope you come back refresh and rejuvenated.
Like I said. Keep your eyes on the prize.

Love,

Victor

Categories Ideas, Thoughts
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