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Standing Alone

September 29, 2011 //
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To a certain extent, I believe that the relationship we have when we are alone is just about the most important.

Anyone who can’t spend time alone is just about the kind of person who would never have a great relationship with others. If you are able to spend time alone, you can have a great time with anyone.

However, to stand alone is a different thing. To stand alone is the ability to be one with one own’s believe and opinions. To not be worried about public opinion. To not be so easily influenced by others.

This is extremely important isn’t it.

Yes. We are social creatures.

But standing alone without fear is what we all should aim for. Not to be easily swayed by the opinions of others.

Categories Consciousness, Ideas, Mindset

Finding The Blessing

September 8, 2011 //
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Things aren’t going as well as I want it to be two weeks ago. I felt lost. I didn’t know where I am going all of a sudden.

I think to a certain extent this started when I start comparing myself with some of my friends who are in steady jobs. We were out hanging out for drinks when they all seem to have a steady and certain lifestyle. They seem to be doing steady while I am still in this part of my life of uncertainty and unknowingness.

I chose it that way, upon further reflection.

I chose this uncertain lifestyle. But sometimes I forget that I chose this lifestyle. I forget that I chose to be a writer and someone who works from home. I forget that I chose to not have a full-time job which pays a steady income. I chose it myself.

But in that comparison with other people, I become uncertain. I am not in their path of things. I felt like I was left behind. Comparisons just make myself bad.

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It is after that few days of feeling down and lost that I realize that I am actually doing what I wanted.

I needed some time to find the blessing. To understand why I am on a certain path. Why I choose to be a writer. Why  I choose to be a real estate agent. Why I choose to start up my own businesses.

I think I fail to see the blessing in my choices of wanting freedom and an avenue to express. Mixing around with my friends dragged me down. I am not saying that they are bad or judging them, but what we want is just different.

I want:

  • Control over my life
  • The ability to express
  • Not following a certain schedule
  • Just doing things for the sake of it

I need constant reminder on the blessing of those choices that I make. As for now, I am just floating around feeling blessed. Blessed with a sense of doing what I love and just having the courage to pursue them.

Fark comparison. I’m doing great. Call me stubborn, I don’t care.

 

 

p.s. I hate grammar. I hate my book being edited by grammar people and being known that I have plenty of grammar mistakes. Writing should be an avenue of expression.

Categories Consciousness, Emotions, Happiness, Ideas, Success, Thoughts

What Can I Give ?

August 10, 2011 //
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I think the common problem with a lot of personal development is they always have this mentality of what they can get. Personal development books are always centered around this goal-setting mentality.

We are taught to set goals and so on. Financial goals and material goals are among them.

However, based upon my experience that is actually a bad way.

This is because if we are constantly thinking about what we can take out, we come from a low level mentality. If we are constantly thinking about what we want. Like a new car or gadget, we will  fail or be very frustrated even if we get it.

This is because if we always focus on what we want, we will want more things. This is normal. That’s why most goal-setting fail in the long term if it focuses on what you want.

I have a different idea. Why don’t we focus instead on what can you give?

I realize that when I come from that mindset, I am able to be happier. I see myself as a provider. I come from an abundance mindset. I feel like I am giving instead of receiving.

I don’t feel like I need anything. I feel rich giving. I feel happy giving.

I think we all need to come from that place of giving if we are to really find happiness in the long term.

Question of the day: What can I give the world? What unique talents do I have to offer.

p.s. focus on giving. not taking.  you’ll be happier.

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Categories Consciousness, Happiness, Mindset, Success

Recognizing Angels

August 6, 2011 //
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We all have many angels around us. We just don’t realize it.

Perhaps for many of us, we have too many things going around us that we don’t realize that. For many of us, we are too focused on what we want and on those things we don’t have that we don’t realize that we have many great things already going on for us.

It is only those times of troubles and when we start losing things that we recognize the divinity of things. It is only when we are down that we realize how we have taken so many things for granted.

There are angels everywhere.

I look around and often ask myself why am I not doing things or not having that. I realize that I have been focusing too much on what I don’t have that I neglect what are those things that I have already. My mind becomes too focused on those things that I want and those things I don’t have. It is an easy tendency to get into. It may be the money I am not making, or the gadget that I have yet to own.

When I hit the moments of low, then only I realize how much I take for granted many things. The angels are the people like my mum who cooks a simple breakfast, my dad who is so supportive of what I am doing and my sister who just tells me a lame joke to make my day.

Angels can also be that pedestrian who gave u a smile on the street to remind me I am worthy of a smile. It reminds me to return it to someone in need.

It may be the blogger who has just wrote an inspiring article to share.

It may be the friend who called/SMS me to ask how am I doing.

It may be the man at the coffee shop who served me a nice cup of tea, smilingly and sharing a light joke. 

It may be the friend I had lunch with the past day.

 

I realize there are so many angels around me. We all do.

What we need is just a transformational shift in mentality. From focusing on what we want and don’t have to what we already got. It seems like what we already got is what we need.

Angels are around you. Acknowledge them.

Categories Consciousness, Happiness, Mindset
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