We cannot anticipate the future. I start with this motion because I feel this is the most important statement I would have to make in this post. It is because of this that I would like to stress it’s importance.
You might think that it makes sense. We all know that we could not anticipate the future, but if we see how we react to certain things, we would realize that we don’t really understand this fact.
Uncertainty Of The Future
How many times do you feel unhappy when something didn’t go our way? Or when you expected someone to act a certain way? Have you felt a sense of insecurity before from not having enough money, in a relationship or in your future?
If we all know that the future cannot be anticipated, why do we even have a sense of insecurity or a sense of heavy expectation for something to happen? Would it actually help us be more productive? I don’t think so.
So, this post is going to focus on these mere fact that we could not anticipate the future and thus we should not create heavy expectations for things to happen. Most of the time, these expectations actually bring us down. It makes us unhappy, stressed, worried. If we try to control the future too much or spend too much time dwelling on it, we become individuals who aren’t fulfilled because we depend on things to go a certain way for us to be happy. If things don’t go our way, we get unhappy. There are many situations that illustrate this. It might be people who are after a promotion, parents who want their children to be a profession, people who expect their spouses to act in different ways or a sales target we want to achieve.
You see, we spend so much time in the future that it creates a lot of expectations. These expectations makes us fearful. We fear that if we do not achieve them or if things don’t go our way, we will get disappointed or we might not look good in front of other people. Since our society is such that whenever something don’t go according to what they want, we actually label them as failures.
That is why our society value those who hold on to their words/promises, those who are consistent, those whose personality doesn’t change much. We love these kind of consistency or what I would rather call as “PERMANENCE”. We love it deep down because of the security it brings. We don’t like things in which we couldn’t predict but like I said, we cannot predict the future.
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