Christchurch Cathedral

It’s been a good 2 and a half months since I am here in New Zealand. Couldn’t believe how fast time flies while I’m here. I couldn’t give any judgment as to whether this trip has been good or not. What matters to me was just the fact that I could take a break and to relax. Been doing a lot of thinking and reflecting the past few months as well.

I sometimes wonder what drives other people. Have anyone actually stop and just think about that? Do you wonder what do you really want from life?

I have been talking to a close friend about her working life and such. People from my course, as well as most people; end up working after graduating. It often amuses me as to how hard our generation actually work. If anyone would do any sort of research or were to talk to any elders, I would say that we as a generation actually work so much harder than the previous generation and such. It amuses me to know that most of us actually are working so hard for things which doesn’t really matter to us.

I have been observing what drives most people. For example, I see that most of those people who are just following the routine career path are most driven by this need: the need to conform. We often tell ourselves that we would reach a certain age where we have to make money, we have to get into a relationship, we have to get married. All of these so-called responsibilities are actually mere society’s projection on what your life should be. If you were to step aside and really think, do you really need to conform to a certain kind of lifestyle?

Probably there is just a seed within me that tells myself that we have to live the life we want. Most of the time, many individuals are actually not living their lives based upon their own desires and wants. The fail so because there is a strong need to conform.

We have to ask ourselves at times if we would really want the kind of life like that. My friend actually tells me that she doesn’t want to work in this line, but she just doesn’t know what other things to do.

We have to find for something for which we love to do. It might take long, or even we may find it hard to go after that passion of ours; but we need to look at life from a totally different perspective.

This are my key points in life, or what I would say my framework for life:

1. We will  die one day.
2. Our life is finite. Time wasted is time misused.
3. If you think you have to wait to live your dreams, you will always continue to wait.
4. You have to treat each day as a gift. Think and dream big.
5. We have to find our passion, purpose and love in our life.
6. We should learn from others, but always be careful with what you learn.
7. Find for the things that move you. Or fulfills you.
8. Ask yourself the big questions in life.
9. Develop courage.
10. Live your own life. Don’t worry about what your family and friends would think. If your family loves you, they would understand in the long term. If your friends do not agree with you, just let it be. Friends who don’t normally accept who and what you are would normally just drift away.

I have come to learn all this lessons in this few years. What most of us want is actually fulfillment. We just fail to recognize it because we are so busy chasing so many other things.

Just stop and think. Stop and think.