Recently, I was ask my a friend to give her some advice on how to recover from grief. Her boyfriend has just lost his father and she wanted some advice on how do someone would recover after losing someone close.
I would admit that losing someone is one of the toughest experience to go through. The feeling of losing someone is something which would always linger in my mind, especially the feeling of seeing your first “death.” Be it a family member, relative or friend; losing someone is a feeling which often shocks us, especially when this is the first one close to us who have passed away.
I could not recommend how would someone help another who is grieving, but I guess I could give my advice to someone who is grieving.
- Accept that death is a natural process. Everyone dies. Period.
- Give yourself a period of time to grief. The period would be around 10 days or 2 weeks. During this period you could just cry or reflect or just anything. But after that period, you have to take charge of whatever situation you are in. Whatever emotional state you are in. Whether you are still unhappy or still can’t accept the lost, you have to continue your usual routine. Take charge of whatever emotional state you are in.
- DO NOT sweep away the feeling of sadness from the loss. One of the worst things to do when we lose our dearest people is to just get busy. We think that by getting busy it would be a solution. The fact is such: emotions that are being supressed would come back again to haunt you. If you do not accept that you are sad, you are just using your work to cover up. Read the rest of this entry »
