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Happiness As A Role

July 20, 2009 //
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Are you truly happy ?
This is a question which I often question myself. I do not even understand why I would ask myself questions like this.

However, I realise that many people are not TRULY happy. Truly happy means having a sense of fulfillment and joy which comes from within. Is the joy that comes through doing what you love and spending time on a pursuit which you cherish.
Many people are not truly happy, from what I see. For many people, happiness is a role that they play. Our culture is such that we often find it hard to really be truly happy. They take it as a role to play. Happiness becomes a mask. A mask that covers all their actual feelings are: The feelings of uncertainty, insecurity and unhappiness. More often than not, the norm does not show their true feelings.

Probably the norm is more concerned about putting on an “image” to everyone else. The image that they are happy and well, when deep down they are not. It’s the whole “OK-Culture”. People play the “OK” role so that they could cover up their actual feelings and just act as if they are happy.

Acting happy might help at certain times, but very often, it just helps in the short term. We should instead address the real unhappiness and discontent we have within us. To really inquire within ourselves on why we are insecure or unhappy. It might be a past event which have really hurt you or it might be someone who said something very hurtful to you. It is only through this journey within that we will be able to really discover what stops us from being happy within, not just making happiness as a role.

I realise within myself that I often make happiness a role as well. I try to put on a fake front so that I do not get judged as someone who’s “emo” or “problematic”. But I guess that’s what society is: Condemning those who are not “happy”.

So today, vow to make an effort to really find for true happiness. Not making happiness as a role in which you play. Be aware of the patterns in which you subconsciously make happiness a role.

Categories Consciousness, Mindset

If It Ain’t Fun, Don’t Do it

July 16, 2009 //
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Something that has been always drummed into my head since young is that if you want to achieve success, you would have to sacrifice or work hard to achieve it. Note the words sacrifice and hard work. These two words are actually words which many people attach a negative connotation with. Something NOT FUN.

I do not buy into that theory at all. To hell with that theory.

I believe that if it ain’t fun, don’t do it. Don’t farking do it.stress



So many times we are actually advised to follow that connotation that we have to sacrifice or work hard to achieve success. No such thing, in my opinion.  I do not believe in this thing at all.

So many people in their delusional chase for success, notably material success, often forget to enjoy the moment. They forget to realise that the only moment which actually exist is only now. To make it more philosophical, the past and the future is just a mere illusion. We buy into that illusion of success as a future event.

We then spend our present moment with so much negativity from the sacrifices. Note again: Nothing exists but the present moment. If we cloud our present moments with so much negativity, the only consequences is such: We live with more negativity.



Stop buying into these limiting beliefs:

  • Life is tough
  • Making a living is tough
  • You have to suffer before you achieve success
  • Hard work is required to succeed
  • Those things that are fun doing do not bring you real success
  • The only success comes financially

These limiting beliefs are normally told repeatedly by those who haven’t really achieve authentic success. It’s either they do not actually achieve the success they want or they are unfulfilled from the success which they had. Either way, they haven’t been successful in my “definition.”

For me, my definition of success is simple.

Success is the achievement of a worth cause towards oneself while thoroughly enjoying the whole process.

Adopt empowering beliefs such as:

  • Success is natural to me
  • Making money is easy for me
  • Money is not the only measure of success
  • Life is mean’t to be abundant
  • Everything that is fun or bring me joy is what really brings me success

To keep in simple: If it ain’t fun, don’t do it. Instead, to hell with other people who think you are naive.

Categories Consciousness, Happiness

Learning to Let Go of Past Beliefs

July 14, 2009 //
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I have been in New Zealand for 5 days, as I am writing this post. I realise how much difference there is with life here compared to life in Malaysia. I find here more relaxing and the people different in terms of their thinking, their beliefs and how they approach certain things in life. Although being here just for 5 days, I can feel that the people here are just more carefree and live life in the present, without really worrying about the future.

I feel this really puts me out of my comfort zone. Life of being busy and always preoccupied with things seem to be what I was living back in Malaysia. In Malaysia, life was basically routinally going after some thing; be it a college degree, to make more friends, to be ‘someone’. Now life here is just so different for me. I don’t worry about being someone. I put all my goals and targets to rest. I completely disregard whatsoever importance to all those goals and targets. My life now just revolve around “living”. Not chasing after anything. Just being and enjoying things and life. Not worrying about whether I succeed a not.

It might seem to some people who are so driven for success that I’m actually taking a step back from life. However, I realised that sometimes taking a step back and doing something different is actually make life more interesting. I was run in the patterns and values set about by my culture that we have to set goals and be living to go after them. As I said, to be “someone”. Read the rest of this entry »

Categories Mindset, Thoughts

Embarking On A Journey

July 7, 2009 //
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I’m off to New Zealand tomorrow. Something of a new experience for me. Travelling alone.

Life have been great to me. This few weeks have been nothing but just planning this trip and just spend time doing nothing. Not lazing, just doing nothing.  Something I’m good at.

Doing nothing is indeed an art. I meet many people who just find it extremely difficult to do nothing. For many of them, doing nothing would mean that they would end up feeling bored and just feeling useless. For me, I feel this is the most productive period for me. This is when I am most creative and able to express many different things in my own way. There is a need for creative expression in each and everyone of us.

This journey represents a sense of creative expression for me. To be able to experience a different culture and to be able to gain some perspective from them. This time would represent one of the most important periods in my lifetime. I would deeply cherish this journey.

Most people do not take time off from their daily routines to really think about their lives as a whole. Things like what they intend to achieve, what they want to spend their lives doing or what are those things for which are important to them. It might be because they are just so stuck in the routine habits of the day-to-day life.

I believe on the importance in this kind of reflection. It’s crucial for all of us to step back always to think about all this big questions. It is within this big questions that we find most of the most precious gems in our lives. To find for what we love and to go after them. To be able to leave an impact in the lives of others. Not just living day-to-day in things that do not really matter to us in the long run.

I know that this journey is going to be a life changing journey. It serves not as just a travel journey, but as a journey within myself. A journey which allows me to step back from the day-to-day routine.

Categories Thoughts, Travel
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