Victor’s Life List

I’ll be heading for New Zealand in two weeks time. I’m not sure if I could consider this a holiday because I plan to stay there for a few months. There are several things up in my mind as to what I intent to do while I’m there. My main purpose of heading down south is to break away from the patterns that have been holding me back. I believe is crucial to once in a while step back from all the habits and patterns that you have been used to, and look at life at a different way. Basically, what I’m saying is to gain a sense of perspective. I need a new “lense”.

I intent to use this journey to give me a sense of direction. I realise how much of my thinking and beliefs are shaped by people around me (parents, elders, friends, media). I intent to use my journey there to best use. I want to think about the big questions in life. I want to use this trip to chart my journey of life.

I realise that I’ve already reached the age of 20. If I were to live till the age of 80, a quarter of  my life is already gone. I realise how fast time flies. Before I know it, I have already graduated from college and embarking on my working life. Many are so caught up with working and living life, that they do not stop to think. To think of where they are heading. To think of what matters to them. To think if what they are doing day-to-day is really worth it. To think if whether what they are working so hard and spending so much time on is really worth it. Read more »

“The reasonable man adapts himself to the world; the unreasonable one tries to adapt the world to himself. Therefore, all progress depends on the unreasonable man.”

-George Bernard Shaw-

There is an inner seed of greatness in each of us. The seed to really achieve great things. To achieve things that totally surpasses our wildest imagination of what we are capable of. We are all infinite intelligence with the capability to achieve anything in life. We have the capacity to achieve anything we want; be it financially, success, or happiness. We are beings with the incredible ability to overcome all odds and to live life large.

We all have the capacity to live life great, but few of us really are living the kind of life we desire. Few of us are really living the kind of life which inspire others. Lives which brings enthusiasm to us. Lives that brings extreme joy to us. Some are even struggling day-to-day; working in careers that are not fulfilling or in relationships which are dead. They struggle to pass each living day they have, believing that life was supposed to be tough and it’s normal for us to go through all this pre-supposed routine.

I often wonder, why do some people achieve so much in life and why some people live medicore lives. Why do individuals like Bill Gates, Steve Jobs, Donald Trump, Nelson Mandela and Tiger Woods live amazing lives. Lives that inspire and contribute to society in ways that many of us could only dream of. Are we less capable than this people ?

I refuse to believe that they are of any different to us. I feel they are just individuals who are desperate to make an impact with their life. They are the people who are interested in playing the game of life, while many of us are just mere spectators watching this great people achieve great things. The game of life is certainly not limited to only certain people. It’s meant to be played by each and every single one of us. However, most of us don’t because we are afraid. We buy into that fear of losing. We fear.

We fear that if we think big and fail, we will be laughed at. We fear of being ridiculed. So what we do is that we play small in the game of life. Everything we do, we play small. We set small goals. We live small careers, careers that don’t inspire us. We fear to ask the big questions in life. We fear to say something to our loved ones, for fear of being vulnerable. We fear saying how much we love someone, for fear of the pain that it entails when we do not get it back.

We fear a hundred thousand things, that are realistically situations which we created. Created out of negativity, out of fear, out of a lack of faith.

That is probably another big reason why many people are afraid to live life large: The fear of not being loved.

We all want to be loved. But, playing the game of life and thinking big require us to step out from the crowd and live life based upon our own opinions, views and ideas. We have to be bold. Before living a large life, we have to first WANT to live it. For us to want to live a large life, it requires us  to step out of the crowd and form our opinions on what our lives should be.

We all have to avoid any connotation which wants us to play small. During the process when we are forming our opinions or ideas on what our lives would be, there would be undoubtedly individuals who would think that you are being arrogant, because your ideas are so large that it might seem that you are belittling them.

Avoid wasting time NOW. Don’t get caught up in the pursuits of small things in life. Stop listening to the voice of others telling you that it’s wrong to think and dream big. Get significant with your life now.

I finally finished my last paper last week. It has been a monotonous past few weeks for me; just being busy with studies. Now I’m just waiting for my results to determine if I would g raduate this semester. i have been pursuing this accountancy degree( ACCA ) for the past three and a half years and hopefully I could graduate soon.

I realise that finishing my exams would mean that I’m ending a phase in my life. My studying life currently ends and it begins a new chapter in my life. My past few years in college had been great for me in terms of how much I have grown and the things for which I am grateful I have learn’t. This are the ten things which I have learn’t from my college life.

(1) You have got to study

It might seem very obvious to any students, but many college students do not actually study. Probably not that they do not study, but do not study enough. It’s sad to say that many actually believe that college life should be a time where you should really enjoy and just neglect our studies. For many, it’s only after they have suffer in grades that do they really change. At times, it’s these changes that takes a lot of time.

I always believe that college life shouldn’t be spent jollying around and just enjoying. It is during this years that most of what we learn will be used to apply in our lives. I truly believe that the best time to enjoy your youth is during your high school days bacuase of the unimportance of high school. High school just prepares the foundation for your success in college/university. You just had to make sure that you can read well and that your grades are reasonably well. Other than that, there is no reason for you to study your heads off during your time in high school.

I always had this thinking since high school and it was such that I treated my studying in college with a lot of dedication. Always remember that whatever hard work you put in during your college years would be worth much more than the hard work you put in high school. If you’re still in college, always make studying a priority. It might seem like it’s common sense but if you were to look at the schedule and what many college students are doing, you have to really question if studying is their number one priority.

(2) Prioritise

Studies should be a priority for any college student. However, we should also be aware that we should also balance with other things in our life. We all have other different things which we have to spend time on too, be it our family, friends, health and other pursuits which we enjoy.

I have learn’t through the years that whatever we focus on improves. If we focus on studying, our grades undoubtedly improves. If we focus upon having a vibrant social life, our social life would improve. If we focus on other pursuits, that would definetely improve as well. However, focusing on something often results in other areas of our life stagnating or getting worse. Therefore, we have to prioritise what are important to us to make the best use of our time. It’s basically a question of asking ourselves, “What is important to me ?”

During my time in college, my priorities were as such, in this order: Studies, Fitness, Gaining more knowledge. Most of my time is spent on improving on this three areas. To some extent, I even neglected my social life to improve on this three areas as for me, this areas are much more important than gaining a wide network of friends.  I still make friends, just that I do not spend that much of my time on this pursuits. My fitness is something which I struggle to maintain in the past few years. It has been partly due to the fact that I didn’t want to commit to just being fit at the expense of not having enough time to study for my papers. Gaining knowledge through reading and meeting different people has been a priority too because of the realisation that what I am currently studying would be insufficient for me to succeed in the working world. Read more »