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Rules Of Work

April 28, 2009 //
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One thing I have always felt fortunate to have is the experience of having friends who are much older than me. Working individuals who have experienced full-fledged working life.

As I have yet to work, I often wonder how would it be like.  The feeling of having to be on time to work, of having to work a certain number of hours, of having to consistently listen to someone else telling you what to do. They often talk about having this negative connotation when it comes to work, especially when they tell me to enjoy my college life and tell me that college life would often be a bliss if compared to the working world.

Of Being Miserable And Fearfulfear

I often wonder why people often have such negative connotation when if comes to working. I always look at those working group and they look so miserable. They talk in such a way as if they have no choice but to stay in their field of work.

They seem to sound like they are being confined or stuck in a prison jail. I realise that these individuals who work often have this incredible ability to complain about their companies and their superiors, but don’t really solve any of their problems. They just love to whine and complain, but not do anything to improve the situation.

Somehow or another, I just feel that this is often a self-created jail created by themselves. We live in a free society. We could make the choices we want in life, to live the life we deserve and the life we want, not conform to want we do not want. It took me sometime to realise, but the huge change came after a life changing event I had a few years back. It taught me that life is precious and I could no longer be one of “them”.

My Choice

statue-of-liberty-nyI choose not to be miserable in my life. I choose not to be in something that I do not feel happy at. I choose to not live my life based on fear. Based on pleasing other people to gain acceptance. I choose to live my life on my own terms.

It then began to dawn on me that there are certain things than I would want in my future career. I began searching for answers of the kind of career which I want.

Amazingly, I started stumbling upon different ideas upon it. I managed to learn about the speech Steve Jobs gave in Stanford University and I really liked the way he talked about “finding what you love.”  (View here) Read the rest of this entry »

Categories Mindset, Success, Work And Career

Dear Mum, Dear Dad

April 24, 2009 //
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Dear Mum, Dear Dad,

I write this not because I want to prove my point. I write this not because I want to be rebellious. I write this not because I want to go against your wishes. I write this because I need to express. I write this because I need you to know certain things.

I know that certain things I do would be hard for you to understand, but trust me, I’m looking furthur ahead than you ever think I could. I’m looking at a prize which furthur impresses you. You might have been right to put emphasizes into certain things like studies and academic successes. But, I know deeper to say that there are certain things which are so much deeper to me which I want. My eyes are fixed on a far bigger goal. A goal which once achieve will blow my mind. To be able to find for something which I live for, to be able to take a bullet in my chest for it.

I have reached a certain stage where I know that I do not intend to please you. I love you, but I do not intend to show it by pleasing you. I have observed this world of ours and know that many individuals are not living their life as they want. I do not intend to be like them. Read the rest of this entry »

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Book Excerpt: Tuesdays With Morrie

April 22, 2009 //
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This excerpt is taken from Tuesdays With Morrie written by Mitch Albom. One of those books which are simple to read, yet profound in meaning.

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“Have I told you about the tension of opposites?” he says.

The tension of opposites?

“Life is a series of pulls back and forth. You want to do one thing but you are bound to do something else. Something hurts you, yet you know it shouldn’t. You take certain things for granted, even when you know you should never take anything for granted.

“A tension of the opposites, like a pull on a rubber band. And most of us life somewhere in the middle.”

Sounds like a wrestling match, I say.

“A wrestling match.” He laughs. “Yes, you could describe life that way.”

So which side wins, I ask?

“Which side wins?”

He smiles at me, the crinkled eyes, the crooked teeth.

“Love wins. Love always wins.”

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Categories Books

Success Is Self-Defined

April 20, 2009 //
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We all have an illusion of what success is. An illusion that is set about by society. Society have set about standards about what you must do to be defined as a success. It is through this illusion that many of us get trapped into. Society places so much emphasise on money, on youth, on being able to contribute to society, on looking better, on having a “high title.”

I am not in the position to say that these emphasises are bad, I am just implying that if they are achieved with the intention to please others, it would be of little importance. Society have defined success in such a way in which we rank our material wealth, our status and through other standards. Throughout the years, I have slowly realised what this has done to individuals. It has slowly begin to dawn on them that the need to please others and society is so important that they even forgo what is most important to them to fulfill what is most important to be a part of society. That people-pleasing culture.

Many people which I happen to know personally happen to go for a goal (i.e material success) with so much persistance, that when once they have achieved it, the “so what” syndrome arises. The feeling where after we worked so hard for something, we wonder why did we ever go after it at the first place. I always feel that the answer to that issue is because they knew it consciously or subconsciously, by achieving that particular goal, it would please others. Achieving goals like being good in studies, being financially secure, holding a high position in a company, having a big house.

I heard of a saying that ” Success without fulfillment is failure. “

How true is that. What is the use of us achieving a certain goal if we are not happy at all ? Or probably for someone else to be happy ?

That why it comes back to the topic, for which I believe success is self-defined. The ability to express ourselves in a way which we want. We have to set about what are those things which are truly important to us. Those things deep down which are of utmost important to us. Not placed about by society, by our parents, by our peers, by our teachers. Only by ourselves.

To be able to express ourselves fully. To be able to wake up each morning with the zest for life. To be able to go after success which really fulfills us.

It takes some time to really think about it, no doubt. But is worth it. Life’s a brief candle, as the saying goes.

Categories Success
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